Since you can only really control your own actions, you can build trust in your relationship — make promises you keep, don`t lie (even little white lies to avoid your emotions), call when you say you`re going to do it, don`t say things you don`t want to say, and look at past wounds that affect how you trust — do you feel unwell, and have you been unloved or misled? Often, it is not without reason that we trust our partner, other than our own past or uncertainties. If so, it`s not that you don`t trust your partner, but that you don`t trust the situation of being in a happy relationship. Be open with your partner about why you feel this way and what you can both do to overcome those feelings. I am a professor of psychology at Albright College. Follow me on Twitter for updates on social psychology, relationships and online behaviours. Your partner might be upset that you haven`t seen your favorite childhood movie (or really, strongly disapproved). It could even be a fight. But relations experts don`t think it`s a bad sign for the future of a relationship. “So your partner loves Harry Potter and you don`t? You only listen to obscure indie bands that publish songs on vinyl and they listen to the latest Justin Bieber hit? At the end of the day, both don`t matter.
These differences of opinion can be addressed and resolved,” Bennett said. You probably want to get back on track and have a peaceful relationship. Also think about the feeling of attachment you want to feel. It`s hard to feel threatened by someone when you consider yourself connected and work on the same result. Stacey Hagen is a coach and advisor who helps women entrepreneurs discover and develop their lives and the businesses they love. She is an enthusiastic traveller, adventurer and lifelong learner whose mission is to inspire and enable other women to live their lives to the fullest. You can visit them in createcoachingconsulting.com and contact them in firstname.lastname@example.org. This may seem like a no-brainer to some, but it can become a huge problem if you are not careful.
Fortunately, if you are honest, nothing bad should come from a bad relationship between parents and partners. “If the core values are more or less coordinated at the end, it`s important to have a healthy way to make decisions,” said Amy McManus, a family therapist and granted at Bustle. “… These relationship skills are one of the most important ways to ensure that your relationship can overcome the inevitable differences that you and your partner are going to have. You can never resolve certain conflicts, but you are a partner with you. Take it for what it is: a good thing. The juicy thoughts and feelings of anger we have during the conflict are usually concealments for more vulnerable and gentler feelings around our true needs. It could be a quick reaction to call your partner “selfish” or “shaking.” But you lose with those words. Have some compassion for yourself and try to find words that describe how vulnerable you are. “I`m glad to see you. I feel lonely when you`ve been away all day,” he says precisely and doesn`t attack your partner.
Now you show the real part of you with which your partner can connect. We`ve all read the common cliché after a celebrity split that says some BS like, “We still love and care about each other, but we`re just separated… (p.s., Miley and Liam, if you read this, my heart breaks again!).